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Dons of Dissection

She has come of age, has done her MBA! and look how beautiful she is!! I want you to find a groom for her.

Yeah A good gentleman he’s well qualified!

Idiot hes not our religion! What are u talking about!

Sorry sir – look hes so handsome

Yeah right but he’s a Gujarati u say?? How is it possible to marry her off to some other culture!

Oh..k He’s our own state..our own religion!

Comeon – look at his surname!! He doesnt belong to our caste! How would u imagine i would marry my daughter to some other caste!

Sir, sir – HE’s our own state, religion, caste..

But he has not done MBA like my daughter!!!!!!!!!!

Oh..i pity the brokers situation! he might have to go through this every single day! If dissection is there in the root levels why are we surprised that there are people to hurl stones at the words of politicians who try the british divide india rule?


I just commented on smitha’s post – ever heard of a person from Iowa being hurled stones at if he settles down in NewYork?  Have you ever read an article that the people of “devon” are protesting against “Yorkshire”???  Then how can we dream of a developed India when our minds still are in the developing stage?

In 2008 when people elsewhere are pondering the possibilities of moving into space what are we thinking of? My daughter will be better of is she’s being married and dumped by someone in my own caste than if she’s with someone from another culture! I will enjoy the movie and laugh my heart out but will throw stones at the actor if in real life he says – im born elsewhere?  Im happy if my company recruits only my state people irrespective of their talents than a maestro from other parts of the country?  

Either the word “education” needs serious refinement or we are not just educated! Give me a break! You want your son to speak fluent english, you dress up in jean and corduroys, you ‘grab a bite’ at McDonalds, and yeah what are you talking about??? your culture being distorted by fellow countrymen from other states?? You had some other names for them? Please!

Im least concerned about politicians – they were known to talk a lot and let them continue to talk. Neither was I interested then nor am I interested now! But what on earth are happening to the common public? Forget the national anthem, national pledge evoking equality stuff! You have brains enough to think? and segregate drama and real life? Ur Uncle is in US, your brother in UK but Hell no! Dont you let others step into your state?

Its saddening hilarity the country is stepping into day by day. O ye people who are up there coz we took the efforts to go stand in a queue and tick a piece of paper, can you just leave us alone if not helping out? O ye people who live, earn, eat and sleep..if you need some entertainment why not try educating the slum people, build houses for the poor for a change? No proper calorie burning stuff nor fun involved in it you say? Well… the gym run by the ‘punjabi’ down the road or the yoga classes by the iyer across the street might come in handy one day, u know! – If only – You can live and let them live!! Oh yeah if youve burnt enuf you can indulge in the bengali sweets you know if you let them live too!!

It’s high time we doomed the dons of dissection. The world out there is talking about global society, international partnerships, and you are keeping a watch on who’s catching a bus from next town to your place? The world is concerned about the estimate of undernourished people worldwide surging to 923 million and u are concerned to wed your daughter to a man who eats meat?  ROFL!!!

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  1. From the first few lines, I thought this post is a dig at the present marriage scenario in India!

    “ out there is talking about global society… are keeping a watch on who’s catching a bus from next town to your place?” LOL, that sums up your stand on the situation!!!

    Great post, very well written.

    Comment by vimal | October 24, 2008 | Reply

  2. thanx vimal..u and kartz somehow encourage me a lot!

    Comment by verbivorehere | October 24, 2008 | Reply

  3. That’s true dear. Mix of culture is a very tricky subject. But indeed, we have to let live the people, following their heart. We have to help the people, or at least, if we can’t, if we don’t want to, stop judging them. Or stop considering them different as ourself.
    It’s all about the fig-leaf, you know, and for days, I try to write a poem about that little thing, that separates colours from shapes.

    I like the way you write. And your smile is really beautiful.
    Thank you darling.


    Comment by maelinat | October 26, 2008 | Reply

  4. Brilliant… Period. Loved the last two paragraphs…

    Politician- someone who shakes your hand before the election, and shakes you up after it!

    Coming to the culture mix and stuff, I am reminded of a Russell Peters joke. Looking at the current world population, Russell says sooner or later the world ll contain only two kinds of people- Chinese and Indians. So, the solution..? Let’s mix and match… Egs.

    Hindus + Jews = Hinjus
    Ice Land + Cuba = Ice cubes
    French + Greek = Freek (read: Freak)

    and so on… 😉 If you have not watched any of his stand-up shows, you are missing something! 😀

    And well… Glad if anything I say/write spurs you on. Peace.

    Comment by Kartz | October 27, 2008 | Reply

  5. @ Kartz – Thanx !!!Its been a long time since uve updated ur post i guess! checked it last friday! waiting for new ones! and yeah i have seen russell perform! Hilarious!

    Comment by verbivorehere | October 28, 2008 | Reply

  6. Oh yeah… Two weeks, to be precise. 😦 Training is killing the creativity within me… Bloody s/w organizations…

    Thought of publishing this last week… Ah well, better late than never. Hope you had a memorable trip to Mysore. 🙂

    And thanks for the prompt drop-in! 🙂


    Comment by Kartz | October 28, 2008 | Reply

  7. lol! i had a similar discussion wid my parents (about someunrelated girl’s life)which later on turned into an unending arguement. it was full of words like selfishness of girls these days (not kids- only girls), the falling culture, insanity, girls not following traditions, society n making parents happy(doesnt really matter if the girl isnt)! i was d one who finally ended the arguement saying that neither of the sides r gonna understand the other’s point of view coz either they dont understand each other’s language (like a chinese n russian conversing in their mother tongues), or simply coz they dont want to. can’t really help it much now, can we? 🙂

    Comment by AV | October 29, 2008 | Reply

  8. @ AV..Each pebble matters..we think different, our children’s live different (hopefully). I knw its hard to convnice others..yet let us bring stand by our thoughts and others might give in 😉

    Comment by verbivorehere | October 29, 2008 | Reply

  9. Hit the nail on the head.Good one.At times I used to wish if some foreign invasion[even better if its an alien invasion] would make us united.

    We are speaking about nationalizing rivers,it the heart and minds of politicians which need to be nationalized first.Moving to a different part of the country and settlign down there is one if my fundamental rights and anyone who is against this is against the indian constitution.Wish we had laws to ban parties which are opposed to neighbors coming in to their states..Wishes remain wishes.

    About indian weddings.I think the current crop of parents are better. Once they realize they r unable to get a boy/girl in their sect/caste/sub-caste they relax the norms.But by the time they do it their child wud be in 30s.

    I have come across this phenomenon called as *.* search..well it goes like this..First the parents start off with search string ‘FSB[fair slim beautiful] vadakalai iyengar girl looking out for vadakalai iyengar boy,professional well settled’…then due to lower success rate it changes to FSB iyengar looking for well settled iyengar groom…with not much success either the search criteria is transformed to ‘Iyengar girl looking for brahmin boy.’..then at a later point changes to vegetarian boy.Finally the search is like Bridegroom wanted..caste, community no bar(Wah! wah!what a broad mindedness)…this implies to all castes,communites n creeds(last survey counted more than 50 thousand..yes it is my state alone :O). I dread it.

    Comment by nautankey | October 29, 2008 | Reply

  10. 🙂 lol i shud say ur comment is better than my blog!!

    Comment by verbivorehere | October 29, 2008 | Reply

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