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Reflections on Reality!

Gold Gold everywhere! Not a glitter anywhere!

Disclaimer : This is the plight of the real middle class that is mentioned here. If you think you dont suffer so much then be glad to know that you are above the middle class!


Thanks to the internet my friendship circle has become bigger and the globe smaller. I just happened to observe the rumoured lureness of India “across the sea!”

My friends exclaim – India? Beautiful place! Would love to visit it sometime. Im blank! I search the atlas – is there another country named likewise?

Here the middle class family has more important things to do than to analyse the beauty and spirit of his nation.

One doesnt have the time to open their eyes to nature or places that are blissfully beautiful. You go in search of jobs to places far from home. Toil round the clock, 6 days a week and with the 23 leaves you are allotted a year all you get to do is reach home to ur dear ones.

One doesnt have the money to treat their taste buds. A majority of the middle-class people I have seen consider eating as a routine.  Tasting for 300rs when you can gobble up a full meal in half the price? Never! Its all for the sake of ‘filling’ the stomache without ’emptying’ the pockets.

One doesnt tend to realize the meaning of melodious pampering. Musical concerts going on? So what they kill you with their ticket charge. Most probably he will sing the same songs you have heard in the radio.  You may get 3 cds at one persons ticket charge!

One doesnt understand the sweet touch of paper back books! The sheer enjoyment of holding it and turning pages! 575 rs for a book. Every month you need different books (err they thought i need to hold on to one as my bible?) you dont realize its a dead investment. (True probably the prices for paper dont rise with time like that of Gold!)

Phew! so in life im not bound to enjoy the extreme pleasures which are abundantly available for my senses. (please! dont put in ur twisted thoughts here!)

Sight – enjoy the places in the movies that you see..preferably take the pirated ones that dont have the pic quality – theatres charge a lot. Hearing – download songs, listen to the cds of the same old songs..pleasures of musical concert and all is rubbish all there is a large crowd with larger purses (knowledge courtesy to imagination as not have visited even one!) Nose – My passion for perfumes need to be stopped with the ‘testers’ available as 5000 for a bottle of perfume is ‘hilariously ridiculous’ and total waste of money! Tastebuds – Chocolates from switzerland? Insanity at its peak! I’ll go get your favourite diarymilk.(favouritism assumed = ass u me ‘d!) Touch –  Books for 1000 a month? Can’t you download some of them? (take care of the download limit – reliance is cheap at the first look and way too expensive if we are careless)

So with all members of the family earning, toiling ourselves at work 9 hrs and another 3 hrs in traveling to and fro from office, six days a week, what are we supposed to do? Show enough expenditure so that we wont be taxed and then? hoard it! For what? arre buy gold, its an the time of the marriage of your daughter (wow someone could predict the gender of an unconceived child?) Or buy a house for your son (now its the incapability of the unborn that’s been predicted!)

That one day of union. For that one day parents spend their lifetime. Emotions have no place, joyousness have no place..but pompousness sure does have place. Entire life your aim is for that one day and in turn you pass on this concept of ‘non-enjoyment’ and ‘hardwork for child’s marriage’ to your children too.

The fun in the drama comes while shifting your gaze from the middle class to a higher class there optionally you find the same rules existing with perhaps one exception “your grand children’s marriage”.

There are a few who do seem to celebrate. How? Diwali – crackers i was spell bound when i heard the boy’s pg next door must have spent approximately (10,000 Rs for crackers! if not more) Dassehra – clothes with prices and stuffs in it that indicate – gold has been sewed to it. some of them flashy enough to look like multi-colored diamonds. treat for the eyes and ears they seem to be! Taste buds – Oh boxes in kilos of the same sweet or taste alike sweets made in pure ghee! Trust me – I hog on sweets and if you ask the difference between one sweet from another i need to give my brains some work-  most of them have the base of milk, sugar and ghee in abundance.

They (my friends) say India – is loud – ofcourse I often have to close my ears be it the crackers, the horns (they blare off as if saying hello to all the fellow vehicles on the roads – constant greetings i should say!) or even if its one man communicating to the other standing a little across the road! Some even think their voice travel the same way over mobiles..the farther the distance the louder you shout!

They (say India) is the land of spices – Yeah we export the best of them and gratigy ourselves with the trash that remains. After all eating is about filling your tummy! (Gee am i glad that atleast we have the trash of the spices we hold back!)

They (say India) is a land of colors – Yeah I saw all sorts of colors in the sky the diwali night! And the mere hearsay information of how much they would have amounted upto brought colors to my cheeks! and yeah one color to the sky after they were done – grey (that’s a color too!)

I realize this country of mine is rich with the natural blessings, abundant with the treats for all senses but binds its people with chains that never let them enjoy the treasures it has in store. Or should I blame the blindness of the current generation. People who have this great door to education, to outer world and yet close themselves behind the age old traditions of hoarding. Ah! speak of adhering to tradition we have them in abundance too but one is chosy enough to pick the worse ones! The good ones have faded off long before.

I dont say you ought not think of your son/daughter. But I wish more than the rush of accumulating wealth for their 20’s..and in the due process live by our lives and neglect their..if only we enjoyed life enough to give them a piece of the world outside,,to treat them with tastes from world them with the right books from authors across the globe and help them grow a better human being!.

Err..lemme wind up..I guess we have a baptism to attend and we as the close relatives need to gift the child ‘gold bangles’ lemme go withdraw my half month’s salary for  that!

November 6, 2008 - Posted by | culture | , , , , , , , , , , , , ,


  1. Verby,
    Its very true that today’s generation earn and hoard, seldom do they enjoy the pleasures of life.Luckily I got a bunch of pals with whom I roam all around the country..ok only in south..accomodation/tickets to north will cost my 2months pay :).Used to do this weird thing some years ago..4-5 of us wud yake a small back pack goto the outstation bus stand ,do an’inky-pinky-ponky’, get into some random bus chosen and travel to some unknown place..some roaming around there and will be back by the same nite or at the max next day morning,no accomodation, no planning..used to be loads of fun.

    I wish all the companies bring in rules for compulsory bi-monthly vacations and ‘true’ enjoyment.

    And about the playscript-thanks for your written undertaking.I still feel watching the play wud be more fun than reading it.How about jumping into chennai on Dec14th for the performance..Gosh!!more shameless publicity, this time its for my play n not the blog so getting better at it :))

    Comment by nautankey | November 6, 2008 | Reply

  2. Im a bird at heart nautankey ..ill hop onto any train, bus, and get anywhere anytime. The day I get a 2-wheeler Ill rule the roads ;P. but you just read the plight of middle class people and travelling and enjoying real plays/concerts right! It will end up in world economy issues! Dnt ask me how – If i were to ask..can I take a leave and Go chennai for a play written by a person called “nautankey”. But do send me some previous works if you dont mind. I take it as pills! One post of day!

    Comment by verbivorehere | November 6, 2008 | Reply

  3. Ironical….

    Comment by Smita | November 6, 2008 | Reply

  4. Haan but middle class too once had their ways to enjoy life..I Remember my days as a kid wen dad’s cycle was the only vehicle at home still had fun time going out.Times change ..argh i am feeling old 🙂

    Sure will send the life threatening pills 😛 ..ur mail id?..mail me @

    Comment by nautankey | November 6, 2008 | Reply

  5. wow, i really wonder what made you write this !!! 😀
    Nice write up, a bit long, but you just covered what every middle class person feels. My fav part is your description on the different senses.

    But dont u feel its only us, the middle class, who thinks too much on all these. The down trodden normally dont dream of anything and the ones sitting up there doesnt even care whats happening around them.

    Btw, I now know who you are. Buhahahahahaha !!! and I must thank you with a treat for bringing a very important person into my life 😀

    Comment by vimal | November 6, 2008 | Reply

  6. @ smita -:) really..u just dont know to what extent!

    @ nautankey – oooh! ive been crying for a cycle since 6th standard! and send the pills..i promise i wont die so soon..laughter is gr8 medicine!

    @Vimal – U knw wat I wud hav really told u wat made me write ths if not for ur “buhahahahah”. the very important person is going to get “very important lesson” for havng leaked out ;P.. and ..if u wud keep the info to urself it wud be treat enuf for me!!

    Comment by verbivorehere | November 7, 2008 | Reply

  7. o ooh, i already blogrolled your blog with your name. wait, theres even more, i also replied to your comment in my blog wid your name !!!

    Comment by vimal | November 7, 2008 | Reply

  8. I enjoyed this particular write-up. My country, Philippines, has Asian values very close to yours and a poverty level enough to render it a 3rd world nation. The middle class here (what more the poor) is hard pressed to enjoy what our tourists often gush about–our beautiful beaches, majestic rice terraces, our wonderful islands,etc. It’s quite expensive to hop on a plane and go visit most of our islands (we are archipelago of some 7,000 islands). So sometimes it’s quite an embarassment to have a foreigner tell you what you’ve never seen in your own country! I also cracked up about what you said — saving for a lifetime and blowing it all on a child’s wedding. It’s a very real truth here as well where I’ve even had some employees beg, borrow, or steal just to finance that big event! Silly and sad at the same time. We love our values and traditions and prize them; but I think we just have to love some a little less in the name of practicality, don’t we?

    Comment by Johanna | November 8, 2008 | Reply

  9. A very insightful post… *applauds*

    It got me thinking. But what can be done when you have something called ‘middle-class mentality’ going around..? No offense… But that is also an issue. There is a (comedy) program on 9X- ‘Remote Control’. I have watched only one episode thus far, but that one episode beautifully portrayed the life of a middle class family. So…

    And yes… I was reading on another blog. How this generation is in a hurry to get things done. We need to learn that patience is virtue.

    Enfin… Good education and then hide behind tradition… Well, what can you say? People prefer to make some choice rather than letting life make the choice for them… 😉

    Good ‘un! Peace.

    Comment by Kartz | November 8, 2008 | Reply

  10. You have been tagged :

    Comment by vimal | November 9, 2008 | Reply

  11. @Jo – Thanks a lot for stepping by..U r the one whove inspired me to start my book review page and u sure do inspire me a lot. Im a lil slow on it..ive lost one post due some errors and hav to put it together. Forget about the country I guess I havent seen places in my ‘state’ that my friends from poland or states have seen!

    Comment by verbivorehere | November 11, 2008 | Reply

  12. Good education and then hide behind tradition – a good one! rhyming and meaning 😉

    Comment by verbivorehere | November 11, 2008 | Reply

  13. @ Verbivore : In punjab we have two sayings, “ਖਾਦਾ ਿਪਤਾ ਲਾਹੇ ਦਾ ਬਾਕੀ ਅਿਹਮੱਦ ਸ਼ਾਹੇ ਦਾ। or Khada Pita Lahe Da Baki Ahemad Shahe Da which means Eat and Drink now for tomorrow Ahmad Shah will take the rest. As a country which was always invaded we have learnt to enjoy our lives here and now. Another saying that we have is “ਜੇ ਪੁੱਤ ਸਪੱਤ ਹੋਵੇ ਤਾੰ ਪੈਸੇ ਜੋੜਨ ਦੀ ਕੋੲੀ ਲੋੜ ਨਹੀੰ,ਤੇ ਜੇ ਕਪੁੱਤ ਹੋਵੇ ਤਾੰ ਵੀ ਨਹੀੰ। or Je Put Saput Hove Taan Paise Jorran Di Koi Lorr Nahin Te Je Kaput Hove Taan Vi Nahin” which means if your son is worthy you do not need to save money and if he is not worthy then you do not need to save either. It is said that Punjabi’s spend around 70% of what they make on their food. I do not know how true that figure is but can be likely. Though great post I agree with you that we must feed our senses. I like your blog.

    Comment by odzer | December 2, 2008 | Reply

  14. @ odzer – thanx for droppin glad ypou liked the site..yours too is reaally good.and speaking of punjab..the poem written before ths is dedicated to my friend who is a punjabi..the place and language is real close to my heart

    Comment by verbivorehere | December 3, 2008 | Reply

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