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Reflections on Reality!

The Binding Tie – The changing perspectives

I remember my childhood days (as everyone i promisse it isnt too far
away ;P) I used to wait till my Dad comes back from his job. An anxious
wait it was to tell him that Geeta pulled my hair and Anu won the
award for painting. Priyanka will be leaving the school and what not. I do
not know if he paid attention but I sure knew I tried my best. If i had no
idea of how much my influence was I was given a small intro by the
employees in his company –

“Here is the one who painted our GM’s nails”.                                                                                                                                                                                                     (mind you bright red was the ‘in’ thing or rather the only thing then!)
I remember him saying no, but i wouldnt budge. Finally he gave in and then
atleast to my Dad’s knowledge ‘removers’ didn’t exist. It wasnt as easy as
the pony tails i tried in his hair ;P. But there he gave me the gift of
acceptance that no matter how silly I am, I’m a vital part of his life.
An unquestionable dependence from my part and an undeniable acceptance
from his. Unquestionable coz no matter how angry I am with him, If i want                                                                                                   dad
a chocolate I have to go ask him! And yeah you guessed it right! I
wouldnt have attitude block my way there! and undeniable coz no matter
how much I stamp my feet and cry aloud for the Barbie doll in the middle of
the shop, he cannot disown me (better he never wanted to beat me!!)

Ive read in books and psychology stuffs that girls desire a husband who is
like their father. Which dint make any sense to me in the beginning. Eby is
as different from Dad as he could get. But i realize both bonds share
some basic values.

As I look at the alarming statistics of Divorce around I realize it is because of
the lack of the similarities in the Bond. As the best of my buddies have trouble                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                       with their marriage I realize they werent lucky to have as much of their Dad’s time.  

When people out there are pointing at the various shift timings                                                                       of  BPO/IT sector, stress levels at jobs, General view & general acceptance
of divorces. They lose out the main points – Relationship with parents,
dependency and acceptance.

When I have fights wit my hubby as to why hes so late, why I dint call..I
guess I have no worries. But when i take out a new ‘modern age me’, when
i blurt out, “I can do it on my own” is when i realize I get the scare
and scamper around to restore peace.

No I’m not against woman empowerment and other developments. Just
mused on the topic. Just pondered how ‘right dependency’ and ‘true
acceptance’ can reinforce bonds despite the social changes.

December 22, 2008 - Posted by | Uncategorized


  1. Yes acceptance or adjustments, what I call them, can easily make Life smooth in the modern changing times.

    Comment by tarun goel | December 22, 2008 | Reply

  2. Women can dream bigger than ever before. But social progress has plateaued short of true gender equity, keeping many of those dreams out of reach in my humble opinion.
    A merry X-mas to you and Eby verbivore.

    Comment by Beagle | December 22, 2008 | Reply

  3. Pretty complex topic for me to comment on :)… But yeah its painful and pointless when we spend so much time peacing out and trying to prove a point to the other has better things to offer

    Comment by nautankey | December 22, 2008 | Reply

  4. In a way, you spoke my mind. I have always believed that ‘acceptance’ will help humanity go a long way.

    Good to see your space updated again. Hope all is well at your end.

    Season’s greetings to you and all your family.


    Comment by Kartz | December 22, 2008 | Reply

  5. gr8 thought…enjoyed reading it..

    Comment by sangeeta | December 22, 2008 | Reply

  6. idokke vaayikkumbol enikku pedi yaavunnu…bhagavaaney!!!!!

    Comment by vimal | December 22, 2008 | Reply

  7. Ur tag has been done!!! 🙂 I’ve added seven points.. Pl Forgive me for breaking the JINX!!! 🙂 Hope u’ll like it… Very small post!! This is the link!!

    Comment by Karthik | December 23, 2008 | Reply

  8. You painted his nails red????

    ha ha ha….

    Right dependecy & true acceptance??? Ahem!!! Will ponder over it….

    Comment by Smita | December 23, 2008 | Reply

  9. asking others for opinion is not wrong,i guess 😛 as for the dependency part..hmm…i think as long as two people meet at some point,there is no problem,only if they take parallel views,it becomes a matter i will bend mine line join you 😀

    Comment by vishesh unni raghunathan | December 23, 2008 | Reply

  10. Made me nostalgic about my childhood days.. nice post. 🙂

    Comment by kanagu | December 23, 2008 | Reply

  11. @ tarun – hey welcome back. Guess you had a small break due to the shifting righht?

    @ Beagle – Thanks so much for dropping by here so often. It sure does mean a lot.

    @Nautankey – Man right aftr you mega event you are here! And dont worry ;P it wudnt be a complicted topic once as in your stories there ‘begins’ a ‘happy ending’ ;P

    Comment by verbivorehere | December 24, 2008 | Reply

  12. @ kartz – yeah u said it right! And tht what’s unlucky..
    people get busy to change others and in the due process
    forget acceptance!

    @Sangeeta – Thanks dearie..ur ‘blogopresence’
    is increasing which is niice 🙂

    @Vimal – pedikkanda tto..bhagavan 16008 pere
    manage cheytha aala ;P

    Comment by verbivorehere | December 24, 2008 | Reply

  13. @Karthik – Hey uve done the tag so cute and damn hilarious!
    Im yet to comment as i couldnt the other day

    @Smita – LOl yeah sure i did! Both hands ;P. which actually
    stopped him for a while returning the salute of the

    @Vishesh – 🙂 yeah yeah lets see when the time comes ;P

    @Kanagu – as i said i guess you wear rose colored glass
    when you step in here ;P hey jst kidding!
    thnx for the comment ok 🙂

    Comment by verbivorehere | December 24, 2008 | Reply

  14. Season’s greetings to you and all your family…

    Comment by Kartz | December 24, 2008 | Reply

  15. @Kartz – Hey there! Thanks and Greetings to u too

    Comment by verbivorehere | December 24, 2008 | Reply

  16. Loved this one Verbi!!!
    I always feel Him by my side though its 10yrs since sad thing happened!

    I used to wait near the gate to tell what all happened in school….I used to jump up to him [6 foot tall] trying to reach Him….wait to tell him all things abt what mom said and did …..complaints against bro 😛 just for the smile he gives me as if he caught my mischeif!

    Uhhh…Love those days!! Love those fights……and somethings which we can never forget….which make us live our life cherishing each day we spent together

    Comment by Sahaja | December 24, 2008 | Reply

  17. chk ma blog… Santa has gt smething for u!! Here is Santa’s address…

    Comment by Karthik | December 25, 2008 | Reply

  18. @ Sahaja – u touched my heart with those words. just sent me back to the good ole days! If only we knew then..that it would turn out ths beautiful now,…

    @ Karthik – phew!! U proved to be a great Santa buddy.. gotta learn to paste awards n widgets and i guess i have so many to put up now ;P Thanks a ton yaar

    Comment by verbivorehere | December 26, 2008 | Reply

  19. i am all for women’s lib .. but it ‘s a big big bad world out there .. and maybe we dont need keepers but companions to help us evade getting eaten by that big bad a way i guess we all look for a bit of our dads in our hubbys.. atleas .. thou in my case there arent too many similarities.

    Comment by bhargavi | December 31, 2008 | Reply

    • its nt tht i looked for similarities..its jst tht the strength of the or needs to be similar..if u knw wat i mean

      Comment by verbivorehere | December 31, 2008 | Reply

  20. dats a very profound thought…would like to ponder over it.

    Comment by state of mind | January 13, 2009 | Reply

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