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Reflections on Reality!

‘God’s chosen’ gift to us!

I hope a couple of you might have read about ma baby due on Xmas day! …

God did try me hard..and I must say for all the prayers..he did in the end make me feel that ma baby is the reward.

Dec 25th is the due date. October 5th I had my regular doctor check up and was told everything is fine. October 19th I just felt there are some rashes. It wasnt all that essential for a check up. Next check was due only on November 5th. But then my colleague insisted that I matter how silly I felt. I chuckled to myself! My doc would think its insane from my part to for a few rashes ..which later were not that visible at all! However I went, reached the hospital exactly 10 mins later than what I had told the Doc, to find out she has stepped out. ((Im not exaggerating ..even a minute when I mentioned 10)) Anyways we postponed the appointment to the next day. The next day the minute she saw me sitting in the chair she felt there was some uneasiness..though I dint realize that aftr all these weeks and days!

She sent us to a scanning center she trusted the most..and insisted that I scan there and nowhere else. The radiologist there broke the news to me. Plain and straight into my face. “Madam there is a problem with your baby, fluid is filled inside the body.” and to my question as to whether the heart beat is there she answered ” Thats there but we cant tell, how the baby will be when it comes out!” and as i was stepping out from her room to wait for the detailed report she even offered – “If you wanna cry you can sit and cry in the adjacent room! From there with the report we went to our gynaec who immediately washed hands referring me to the medical college hospital here. The first gynaec we met there, ver warmly again gave it to me on my face. Dear it is a case of hydrophetalis (pardon me the spelling..i just dont wanna cross check the old records to be sounded like this). The baby is not going to survive even if it comes out..Why would you want a scar in your uterus unnecessarily. Here this is a catholic hospital we would not do abortion, you will have to get it done outside!

If there are words like the world came crashing down..I felt those that day, when a VERY reputed senior Doc in a medical college hospital told me that. I had only one request to Eby..whatever it is I want the baby. Now that I had 7 months of it growing inside..kicking and moving I wanted it outside no matter what. In the meantime there were friends who had sudied medicine and informed us that this could cause abnormalities in children!..The first person I owe it to is ofcourse Eby..who after hearing all this was damn disturbed but still kept his cool encouraging me that If at all I cried or felt low it would affect the kid more and hence I shouldnt strain maself..

Then there was a 2nd opinion scan done at Srinivasa clinic in Banshankari and even there ..the radiologist (who was famous all over India) told me..”Im not very happy about the baby. Fluid has been accumulated, kidneys are dilated, the head seems larger.. Our hopes were shattered..when a friend of ours made me talk to a famous Doc who practises in Kerala. I should thank him for the kind of reassurance he gave me. Everything was curable and there was nothing major or critical to worry about ma baby he told after cross checking with the x-ray reports and talking to the radiologist. (over the phone)

I consulted a second doc in the same medical college hospital, who aftr seing the reports for a 80-20 chance for the kid..wherein the former meant positive and the latter negative. However Oct 28th Morning she came and told the chances are now 50-50 and the kid needs to be taken out immediately.  On October 30th morning 8.55 am I delivered this complicated baby boy!  I did not see him tillNovember 2nd!  He was immediately taken to the Neo-Natal ICU.

First the lungs of a premature baby needed to be developed for which he took almost a week. Then there was a scanning to be done at the Bangalore institute of oncology to know the disposition of his kidneys and then there was a small bock to be removed which had caused the entire problem of urine accumulation, which inturn had caused the fluid filling.

From October 30th till December 3rd..he was there in the Intensive Care Unit of Bangalore Medical College Hospital. With me begging for his life and well being..every single minute!

And as we have named him  – Hrehaan..he certainly is “God’s chosen’ alm for me.

Today as a miracle..or as if God chose to give me my alms..hes fine..he overcame his lung immaturity after weeks in ventilator..his kidney dilation turned out to have become fine in the last scan done. His block in ureterus valve has been removed in a minor surgery and hes urinating just fine..His bladder seems weak but they have given medicines to improve..

Edited after vimmuuus suggestion – There is a reason I put this up..

2 senior gynaecs..out of which one is famous throughout Bangalore. 1 radiologist who is well known and trusted by docs..had washed their hands off! What if I had sat and just cried?! The problem had started in 5th month and I was going around clueless regardless of my timely visits to the Doc..No symptoms…on uneasiness! I want mother-to-be s who read this and your friends who are pregnant to be the end of is in your hand.. U make sure that your gynaec.sends you for scanning, checks your weight and BP..every single month..

th fifth month scaning showed the weight of the baby 290gms and the radiologist and gynaec dint even bother about it.(neither was I then aware that it was not normal!).and when my 7th month started I had asked as to whether I should get a scanning done to which the Docs answer was NO! Tomorrow if Hrehaan reads ths ..he ought to be proud! That he was mighty fighter overcame so early…

December 4, 2009 - Posted by | Uncategorized


  1. Hi verbivore.

    From downunder I wish to congratulate you and eby on the birth of Hrehaan. Yours is a moving story, one of courage and faith, so pleased your unending belief has been rewarded and your little man is now safely at home with you. You will be a devoted mother and I wish you and eby much happiness in the future.


    Comment by Teddy | December 4, 2009 | Reply

  2. Oh Verby! My heart was heavy again – after reading all you and yours went through. BUT GOD IS SO GOOD. You are strong and I am so thankful Hrehaan is doing so well.

    I am thrilled for you all…I will keep you and your family in my prayers!

    Comment by Missy | December 4, 2009 | Reply

  3. Hugs, Verby! I cannot imagine what both of you must have undergone during that time.. It is indeed a blessing. It is wonderful to read that after all this, Hrehaan is doing fine.

    You know, it scares me, because when I was pregnant with daughter, here in the UK, doctors don’t even examine patients – it is mainly midwives, unless a complication in noticed.. and they just have 2 scans – one in the 3rd month and one in the 20th week, I think. You are so right, so many of us, might not even come to know of a complication like this, until it is too late..

    Comment by Smitha | December 5, 2009 | Reply

  4. Hi dear. I am out of words… but all i can tell you is that i will remember this forever and by reading this u have made me a stronger person, just like u. i congratulate u for your strength, courage and the blessed baby boy. i am very sure ur kid will be proud of u and eby. love u. 🙂 i tried calling but not getting through.

    Comment by Leena | December 7, 2009 | Reply

  5. Hey!! *hugs*

    And congrats! You ve finally done it!

    I know how it feels. These docs are all so irresponsible nowadays!

    Comment by Winnie the Poohi | December 7, 2009 | Reply

  6. Oh, Verby! This post has caught me off-guard. I had a friend in the room while I was going into your blog and she saw me shedding some tears while reading this.

    I am so sorry you had to go through this. I can’t imagine what you felt. But I can glean from this that you are a person of faith and fortitude, a fighter as well. That’s why your baby is a fighter, too.

    Am glad to know you and your baby are fine. God (in whatever religion)is indeed good and he has showered you with blessings.

    My prayers go out for you tonight. I’m wishing all the best for you and your family.

    Comment by Johanna | December 8, 2009 | Reply

  7. Congrats for the baby boy 🙂

    Though that was a sad experience but am glad that you all came out of it successfully!! Some doctors just don’t know their responsibilities!! Sheer carelessness!!

    Comment by Smita | December 8, 2009 | Reply

  8. Reading it made me so worried… And i am glad that everyone of you were fine now…
    Congrats and hugs to you… Bless you all …

    Comment by kanagu | December 9, 2009 | Reply

  9. Heyy, you are mentioned in my 200th post. Have a look :

    Comment by Vimmuuu | December 14, 2009 | Reply

  10. Congratulations on the birth of your special baby boy! I found myself holding my breath while reading your post. I cannot imagine what you must have gone through! I’m glad you fought and I’m glad Hrehaan fought (lovely name, btw). I wish you all the very best. Bless you!

    Comment by Psych Babbler | December 16, 2009 | Reply

  11. @Teddy – thanks a lot teddy..

    @mismi – the crews support sure
    did go a long way to help me hold on

    @Smitha – I knw..there should
    be sme sort of responsibility tht th docs need to show

    @Leena – yeah if ur planning it in Blore u need to
    remember! I wish i wasnt overconfident
    and had cross-checked once

    @Winnie th Pooh -thanks winnie..

    @johanna – ur comment caught me offguard 🙂
    nt all can shed tears for others..
    i truly was moved to read tht

    @Smita – yeah..nd here we cant even teach them!

    @Kanagu – yep evrythngs fine now..thnks
    for dropping by.

    @Vimmuuu – visited and posted ma comment sir

    @PsychBlabber – Thanks a lot for dopping by.
    Evrythng is fine now.and am truly glad u liked the name.

    Comment by verbivorehere | December 17, 2009 | Reply

  12. Just dropped by again to wish you an early very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year! Wishing all the blessings on you and your family for the coming year. 🙂

    Comment by Johanna | December 17, 2009 | Reply

  13. Congratulations for the mommy Verbi!!! 😀 Take good care, dear 🙂

    Comment by Shayari | December 21, 2009 | Reply

  14. Here after a long time! Came to check whether u hv delivered already!

    Am so glad strong baby Hrehaan is dng well 🙂 I ws shivering when I started reading … u r a very strong woman and so r ur dear ones! Hugs to u 🙂

    God bless u all 🙂 I luv his name 🙂

    A very happy new yr to all of u dear!

    Comment by Swaram | January 12, 2010 | Reply

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  17. If you don’t, I’ll make sure H reads this!
    It’s a moving post and one of undying faith !

    Comment by scorpria | March 1, 2010 | Reply

  18. Everything happens for a reason. Islam isn’t my faith, but I have listened to quite a few Islamic lecturers. Allow me to share the gist of one such speech.

    “God tests people. You may ask – what about a child that was born with a random disability? Good question… But the answer is simple. The child has already passed the test. God is now testing how his parents cope… God tests your faith. For He shall not and will not give up on someone who trusts in Him.”

    As the adage goes – God helps those who help themselves.

    And may this moving incident be a lesson to anyone who even thinks about giving-up…

    Lets not just keep the faith. Lets share it.

    Peace. Take care. Stay blessed.

    Welcome to the world, Hrehaan. 🙂

    Comment by Kartz | June 28, 2010 | Reply

  19. Congratulations Verbi and Eby on being the proud parents of Hrehaan 😛
    You are one brave family who stood the toughest tests of time.
    Stay blessed and may you all be blessed with life’s best forever 😀 😀
    I was holding my breath all the while I was reading this post. As your and Eby’s faith and Hrehaan’s courage finally broke free the rough times so did tears flowed to let loose the pain I felt in my heart.
    Loads of love and hugs to you and the little prince 😀

    Comment by Chatterbox | September 16, 2010 | Reply

    • ohh..jst saw ur comment…im touched to see tht u were so deeply times were ofcourse trying and i wrote ths wen vrything was bottled up in my next month Hrehaan turns 1 and hes pretty fine..except for lil probs for which hes n medication

      Comment by verbivorehere | September 18, 2010 | Reply

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